Synchronous Life – Honoring Occupation

(Sermon Study Notes for 032016 – Download PDF here)

We are meant for work, and for Good works. In the very beginning stories of human life meaningful work was seen as an essential element of our existence. Work can be a means by which we honor and glorify God, or it can distract us and destroy that which is good.

Sermon Study Notes – 032016 – Exodus 36:1-7

Occupation means not only what we do to earn income and thus purchase the things we need to live. The literal definition is “anything that occupies your time” – therefore watching TV, doing yard work, writing a poem or cooking a meal – these are all occupations. For the purposes of the Synchronous Life discussion, occupations are those things that are done external to oneself. Thus thinking a poem is an intellectual activity, while writing or reciting it to someone is an occupation.

The text for today (Exodus 36:1-7, see also Exodus 31:1-11) demonstrates how God has gifted and called particular individuals to occupations whereby they will do something or make something, and thus contribute positively to the community. They have been “blessed to be a blessing” (Genesis 12). As background for this, we have also Genesis 1:26-2:9, excerpts from the first and second creation stories that illustrate how God made human kind with occupation as integral to our created nature – to care for creation and one another, and thereby provide our livelihood and develop society.

In the texts from Exodus we see that some work serves the purpose of enabling or enhancing the worship life of the community. Not that we must have a structure within which to worship, or instruments and musicians to lead us, or vessels and other objects for our use in worship. These are not, strictly speaking, necessary. And yet they are helpful. They can aid in drawing us in and holding us together as a community and focusing our attention on God. (NOTE: They can also become obstacles, when they become the objects of worship rather than tools that facilitate worship – that is the definition of idolatry.)

Think about the place, the space, and the objects used in your experiences of worship. How are they helpful, and how might they become a hindrance? Which ones do you personally use, and which are used by others, though perhaps for your benefit – i.e. you use a hymnal and the communion trays, but do not personally play the organ. Give thanks for those who made all of these things, those who gave the money for them, and those who maintain and prepare themselves to make worshipful use of them – all of these are expressions of occupation. Now think about all of the rest of the church life – study, fellowship, service, evangelism, administration – and all of the items used, and by whom. Think over all of the various occupations that go into making a church function well. In which of these are you now or have you been involved? How have you helped make these things possible? When can you recall that these things became sources of struggle or conflict in the life of a congregation?

What about today and tomorrow? How are you currently involved? What is your occupation in the life of faith through the congregation or community where you are connected? What might you do differently? Various occupations suit us during the changing seasons of our lives. Yet there is always something we contribute to those around us and to the world. What is it for you?

 

Questions for Reflection:

Occupation is one of the Six Domains of a Synchronous Life:
Spiritual / Physical – Emotional / Relational – Intellectual / Occupational

  1. How is your occupational life important in your faith journey and relationship with God? How has that changed over time? Remember, this applies not only to what you do to earn income, but any activities – work, hobbies, etc.
  2. When might occupations cause problems for someone’s spiritual journey?
  3. Where in our community and culture do you see occupations to be vibrant and life-giving? Where are they being applied with wisdom, resulting in righteousness, justice and equity?
  4. Where in your own personal life does your occupational life get expressed? How do you keep it active and vibrant?
  5. What might a church, The Church, and our church, do to support people in their occupational lives – in the pursuit of meaningful work and activities that help them become better people and receive God’s blessings so that they can bless others?
  6. How do occupations impact the other areas of life – spiritual, physical, emotional, relational, intellectual? What might you do, and what might the church do, to help people better integrate, harmonize, and synchronize the energy and vitality in each of these other areas with their occupational lives?
  7. How have you, and how can you, share your occupations with others? Who have you apprenticed, taught, mentored in a skill or knowledge area of yours? Again, this can be a “work” or “hobby” or “volunteer” activity.
  8. When has God shown up in your occupational life? When have you been active in some task or another and become aware of God’s presence, or God working in, through or around you to bless others, yourself, and the world at large?

 

Worship Resources for 032016

CtW – Psalm 90 sv

Leader: Lord, you have been our dwelling place throughout all generations. Before the mountains were born or you brought forth the whole world, from everlasting to everlasting you are God.

People: You turn people back to dust, saying, “Return to dust, you mortals.” A thousand years in your sight are like a day that has just gone by, or like a watch in the night.

Leader: Our days may come to seventy years, or eighty, if our strength endures; yet the best of them are but trouble and sorrow, for they quickly pass, and we fly away.

People: Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days. Make us glad for as many days as you have afflicted us, for as many years as we have seen trouble.

Unison: May your deeds be shown to your servants, your splendor to their children. May the favor of the Lord our God rest on us; establish the work of our hands for us— yes, establish the work of our hands.

Prayer of Confession: UCC Book of Worship 36a

Text: Exodus 36:1-7
Title: Synchronous Life – Honoring Occupations
Also:  Genesis 1:26-2:9

We are meant for work, and for Good works. In the very beginning stories of human life meaningful work was seen as an essential element of our existence. Work can be a means by which we honor and glorify God, or it can distract us and destroy that which is good.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Exodus 36

1 So Bezalel, Oholiab and every skilled person to whom the LORD has given skill and ability to know how to carry out all the work of constructing the sanctuary are to do the work just as the LORD has commanded.” 2 Then Moses summoned Bezalel and Oholiab and every skilled person to whom the LORD had given ability and who was willing to come and do the work. 3 They received from Moses all the offerings the Israelites had brought to carry out the work of constructing the sanctuary. And the people continued to bring freewill offerings morning after morning. 4 So all the skilled workers who were doing all the work on the sanctuary left what they were doing 5 and said to Moses, “The people are bringing more than enough for doing the work the LORD commanded to be done.” 6 Then Moses gave an order and they sent this word throughout the camp: “No man or woman is to make anything else as an offering for the sanctuary.” And so the people were restrained from bringing more, 7 because what they already had was more than enough to do all the work.

 

Exodus 31

1 Then the LORD said to Moses, 2 “See, I have chosen Bezalel son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah, 3 and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with wisdom, with understanding, with knowledge and with all kinds of skills— 4 to make artistic designs for work in gold, silver and bronze, 5 to cut and set stones, to work in wood, and to engage in all kinds of crafts. 6 Moreover, I have appointed Oholiab son of Ahisamak, of the tribe of Dan, to help him. Also I have given ability to all the skilled workers to make everything I have commanded you: 7 the tent of meeting, the ark of the covenant law with the atonement cover on it, and all the other furnishings of the tent— 8 the table and its articles, the pure gold lampstand and all its accessories, the altar of incense, 9 the altar of burnt offering and all its utensils, the basin with its stand— 10 and also the woven garments, both the sacred garments for Aaron the priest and the garments for his sons when they serve as priests, 11 and the anointing oil and fragrant incense for the Holy Place. They are to make them just as I commanded you.”

Personal Needs in Intimate Relationships

Download pdf here: SL- Personal Needs in Intimate Relationships

Needs to be met (write in your own observations in each category quadrant):

Physical:

  • Affection and caring shown through touch
  • Sexual intimacy that is open, vulnerable, tender and safe
  • Safe, secure shelter
  • Financial security
  • Nourishment
  • Encouragement of physical health and wholeness
Psychological / Emotional:

  • Affirmation
  • Shared interests
  • Respect
  • Space
  • Companionship
  • Security
  • Trust
  • Support
Social:

  • Public Affirmation
  • Public Naming and Claiming
  • Affirmation of other’s ‘social style’ (Introvert/Extrovert)
  • Mutual circle of friends
  • Acceptance of other’s family
  • Support for other’s interests & appropriate participation
Spiritual:

  • Support of freedom
  • Challenge to grow toward wholeness
  • Spiritual connections
  • Some shared spiritual interests
  • Agreement on spiritual relationship

His needs / Her needs:

Take time, on your own individually, to think through the four categories above. Read through each list, spending time thinking over each item. You may add some others that you think or feel are important and worth listing separately. Pray about each area, and seek to know yourself and your partner honestly and fully. Listen for the leading of your own spirit and God’s Spirit together guiding you through this process. On separate sheets of paper, give yourself plenty of room to elaborate on each item in the four quadrants. Identify both the what and the how of the need – specific enough that you can follow through later. Complete the exercise both for what you perceive your partners needs to be, and what your own needs are. Then, from that work, list below the top needs of each of you that can/should be met by the other. Before you begin, read the back of this page fully.

My needs to be met by my partner:
My partner’s needs to be met by me:

Affirmation and Agreement:

As you come together once you have completed the lists of needs, consider simply trading papers without comment, each of you taking some time, again by yourself, to read through the list, think and pray. What do you hear your partner saying from her/his heart? Then come back together and work through the following:

  1. Affirm the things that your partner discerned about you, both in what your need is now and how they think it can be met. Remember, you are building a foundation for a life together – the more open and generous your conversation, the better your relationship will be and the stronger it will grow over time.
  2. Ask clarifying questions where you do not understand. CAUTION: Your goal is not ot show up your partner and how little they know about you – rather, you want to take this opportunity to reveal more of yourself to your partner for your mutual benefit.
  3. ALERT: Are there some places where needs have been identified that are not yours to meet? No partner or friend can or should try to meet every need in the relationship. Most of us need friendships and interests outside our most intimate relationship. Some needs are only God’s to meet – we can not save one another, fix one another, make one another righteous, heal one another’s brokenness, give one another meaning and purpose in life, or give one another a healthy sense of self-worth. Only God can give these things. However, we can do things to erode or undermine God’s work in our and our partner’s lives.
  4. Agree together on what the priority needs are in your relationship and how you will intend to meet them. Your marriage vows will include your covenant statements to meet one another’s needs – this is a step in that journey together.
  5. Affirm again. Express your gratitude to your partner for the willingness to be open and vulnerable, to trust you with their deepest self, and for their desire to meet those of your needs that are theirs to meet.

Next Steps

A marriage, a family, or any other intimate relationship takes work. And anything that takes work takes commitment. Whatever would be healthy must be fed and nurtured regularly, or it will wither and die. Different relationships require different amounts of nurture and tending, just as do different plants. A cactus needs far less water and nutrition and can bear greater heat and scorching sun – but how many of us want to snuggle up to a prickly-pear?

It will be worth your while to keep this exercise handy. Consider reviewing it at least annually on your anniversary as a way to keep your commitments fresh, and to continue to grow in your awareness of yourself, your partner, and your relationship with one another and with God, as all of these grow and change over time and through experience.

A blessing

May the love that joins you together be boundless as the sky, deep as the oceans, beautiful as the mountains, and powerful as the love that God has for you.

Hospital & Homebound Visitation Ministry Training: Thursday, May 17th, 1 to 2pm @ www.twincreekshosp.com

All those interested in Hospital Visitation Ministry – on behalf of their own congregation or as a registered hospital volunteer – are encouraged to join us for lunch on Thursday, May 17th, 1 to 2pm here at the hospital.

The topic will be: Effective Communication – Crucial Conversations Ch 5: Make it safe: How to make it safe to talk about almost anything

In this chapter, the authors address the issue of safety in our conversations – i.e. being able to speak honestly without people feeling threatened or moving toward a defensive fight or flight, silence or violence response. How often has there been an issue in your ministry that you wanted to address with someone, but were unsure of how to approach it – how to “broach the subject” with the person. You sense that it is a delicate topic and that it would be easy for people to feel threatened or have hurt feelings. This conversation will focus on how to work on safety in our conversations. This also builds on the Family Systems Theory conversations that we have had (see http://kengcrawford.com/coaching/family-systems-theory/).

Most of our ministry requires effective communication of care and compassion, of ideas about self, God, life, about choices and consequences. For the coming months, we will be working through the book Crucial Conversations, (see www.crucialconversations.com to learn about the book or order your copy) I have prepared a handout for each session that summarized the book, but you will find the discussion much more rewarding if you read the book for yourself. It is easy to read, and provides insights with practical tips for more effective communication when the results truly matter. You will also develop skills for helping other people improve their communication skills at home, at work, and even with God. You can also access my chapter outlines at http://kengcrawford.com/crucial-conversations/ .

This is a good meeting to attend for those desiring a volunteer opportunity with the hospital, as well as those who are simply exploring various ministry opportunities and would like to learn more about hospital ministry and dialogue with those who are currently involved. Our goal is to supplement the training and education that you may have received in your own congregation or other settings.

My role here at Twin Creeks is a complement to my work as Pastor of Forest Grove Christian Church, so I understand the importance of caring listening in the congregational and hospital settings.

The training and lunch are free.  We ask is that RSVP so that we can preparePlease RSVP by Tuesday, 5/17 to Ken Crawford – kcrawford@twincreekshosp.com
Ken Crawford, Chaplain
www.twincreekshosp.com

Where to look for the good stuff…

John 1:43-51;  CTW: Psalm 139:1-6, 13-18

 

SERMON NOTES:  Where to look for the good stuff…

“Can anything good come out of Nazareth?”

Think for a minute about “GOOD” and “BAD.”

Make a mental list, or even write one down now – two columns of opposites labeled Good and Bad. What do you put in each column?

Now think about where Jesus went. Born in Bethlehem, lived in Nazareth of Galilee, chose fishermen, tax collectors, religious revolutionaries, as his friends, companions and disciples. Welcomed “prostitutes and sinners”, lepers and cripples. Because of the company he kept he was called a drunk and a glutton.

Think about what he taught: “Blessed are the poor, grieving, meek, seekers of righteousness, merciful, humble, persecuted, peacemakers…”

Matthew 5: 2 and he began to teach them, saying: 3 “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4 Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5 Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. 6 Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7 Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. 10 Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 11 “Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12 Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.

Luke 6: 20 Looking at his disciples, he said: “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God. 21 Blessed are you who hunger now, for you will be satisfied. Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh. 22 Blessed are you when men hate you, when they exclude you and insult you and reject your name as evil, because of the Son of Man. 23 “Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, because great is your reward in heaven. For that is how their fathers treated the prophets.

It’s interesting to contrast the two passages –

In Matthew Jesus is speaking in the third person – “Blessed are the…”

In Luke he is speaking to them in the second person – “Blessed are you…”

In Matthew he is identifying emotional and spiritual states: humble, meek, merciful

In Luke Jesus lists physical situations: poverty, hunger, grief

Let’s think back to how God had functioned in Israel’s history before Jesus…

  • God called Abram and Sarai, an older couple unable to have children – and thus scorned by their community.
  • God worked through Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Judah and Joseph, all of whom were sneaky and deceitful, at times arrogant, and lacking in courage – yet they were trusted to God.
  • God chose Moses, who had been beaten down from his position as prince through 40 years of shepherding, till he lacked any self-confidence.
  • God chose David – the youngest and frailest of Jesse’s sons – to be king of Israel.
  • David’s great grandmother was Ruth – a widowed foreigner.
  • David’s wife was Bathsheba, whom David stole by killing her husband.

Throughout Israel’s history God often chose those who were less desirable and worked the divine plan of salvation blessings through them.

Paul summarizes God’s work in this way…

1 Corinthians 1: 27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong. 28 He chose the lowly things of this world and the despised things–and the things that are not–to nullify the things that are, 29 so that no one may boast before him.

And we are to follow God’s wisdom, not earthly wisdom. Earthly wisdom looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart, looks inward, looks at the potential hidden inside.

Jesus tells us quite clearly how and where to encounter him –

Mark 9: 33 Then they came to Capernaum; and when he was in the house he asked them, “What were you arguing about on the way?” 34 But they were silent, for on the way they had argued with one another who was the greatest. 35 He sat down, called the twelve, and said to them, “Whoever wants to be first must be last of all and servant of all.” 36 Then he took a little child and put it among them; and taking it in his arms, he said to them, 37 “Whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me, and whoever welcomes me welcomes not me but the one who sent me.”

Matthew 25: (31-46) 35 for I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me.’ 37 Then the righteous will answer him, “Lord, when was it that we saw you hungry and gave you food, or thirsty and gave you something to drink? 38 And when was it that we saw you a stranger and welcomed you, or naked and gave you clothing? 39 And when was it that we saw you sick or in prison and visited you?’ 40 And the king will answer them, “Truly I tell you, just as you did it to one of the least of these who are members of my family, you did it to me.

There are at least three messages for us to take from this:

1)     If we want to know where God is at work, and what God might want to do, we should look not to the powerful, but to the weak, not to the wise, but to the simple, not to the rich, but to the poor, not to the healthy, but to the sick

2)     If we want to know Jesus, we must place ourselves in relationship with these same people, for Jesus has said repeatedly not that he is among them, but that they are him.

3)     If we want to be like Jesus, we must become like them.

This is difficult for us, because our culture and its wisdom tells us to look to those who are successful, yet God consistently chooses those who were failures in societies eyes.

We begin hosting Family Promise again this evening.

There are many good reasons for doing this.

  • Jesus tells us to care for the poor because God cares for the poor.
  • Jesus teaches us to have compassion, because God has compassion
  • Jesus teaches us to show love, because God is love.
  • Jesus leads us to life through his cross – the crucified one is the victor.

I think the most important reason is not because of what we can learn, or even because of obedience, though these are both vital.

Rather, the most important reason is because in them we meet God.

What needs to change for us to view our life this way – that in the broken, frail and rejected of society is  where we meet the God of life?

Who do we need to be? How do we need to change?

Think about some simple prayer language. Now, I don’t suggest you go around saying this to other people, because you’ll really scare some of them.

  • When you see, talk to, or touch a child, say in your heart, “God, I greet you. Teach me.”
  • When you meet someone who is poor and struggling, say in your heart, “God, I greet you. Meet my need.”
  • When you meet someone who is sick, crippled or dying, say in your heart, “God I greet you. Heal me.”

Each time you greet someone who appears to have nothing to offer you but rather needs things from you, realize that this is the very person who has the very thing that you need. And only after you have received from them God’s blessing can you be in a position where you have anything to offer them.

For me, the very thought is both terrifying and life giving.

How will we live differently as a result? As we do this, let us share our experiences with one another to learn from and encourage one another.

Confusion and Anger look similar

A story: recently we were working with a young homeless man who is here in the area, living out of his car. A local shelter we know to be a very nice facility, successful in helping folks make progress on their goals and get to a more stable place in their lives. We took him there for a tour, during which he was very quiet. They told him that they have beds available, and would be able to do the intake process that afternoon. I was very surprised that he did not want to stay, and tried to be sure he understood what was being offered, which he said he did, but was not interested at that time.
This left/leaves me confused and frustrated for him that he is choosing to live in his car rather than get good help from good people in a safe, warm environment. A few minutes later, the young man (quite boldly, I think) said, “Are you angry with me?” After reflecting a moment, I told him no, just confused and frustrated for him in this situation. Then I said, “Maybe confused and angry look similar on me.” to which a friend with us immediately said, to me and to him, “Yes, they do. Yes, they do.” What an interesting revelation/awareness for me. Amazing the gifts that others have to give to us, even when they seem to be the ones in need! Thinking more about this later, I decided that I did have some anger around the situation, but it is for him, not at him. I’m angry that the world can be so cruel to someone that at 20 they are homeless and convinced that no one loves them.
So I roll back through my scrapbook of memories – unproductive relationships and moments of significant miscommunication. When have I been frustrated and confused, or even had a sort of righteous indignation about a situation, but not anger toward the person or people? But what people perceive is that I am angry with them. How troubling that is!
May God grant me the wisdom and power to be renewed, restored and reconciled. And if you’ve got insights to share, I’d gratefully receive them.